Sitting here watching The Ten Commandments and wanted to stop by and say hello to all of my friends here at tBlog. All of you have been so sweet to me these past few months and I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate the love that you have shown me. I've been in bed for the last week and I hope that I will be able to get up for a little while tomorrow. It's going to be a very sad day for Glenn, Eddie and I but we are strong and will get through it. Remy was a big part of my life the last 13+ years and I will definitely miss her because she loved spring and Easter. As for my mom I will always be sad for the years wasted by pride and anger. Love your family and friends because you never know what tomorrow brings. Hugs, Zissy
...went to my doctors appt. thinking I was fine and I ended up being taken by ambulance to the emergency room where I stayed until late into the night. I was asked for a specimen and after it was checked all hell broke loose. The doctor came in and asked if I had any belly pain and I said yes for some time now and he said ketones are showing up in your urine and with the stomach pain we need to send you to the hospital for them to check your pancreas. I wasn't happy at first but I agreed and went. What a freakin' circus! I ended up being there for 10 long hours and they never did a scan of my belly or anything the doctor said they would do. Instead I had my vitals taken twice, gave into to emergency doctor, taken to a room with a prison inmate and given 2 bags of fluids with some morphine for pain that I've never had in my life. Sent back to the waiting room hopped up on morphine in which I could barely sit up in my chair to sit for hours until the results. Was finally taken to my bed CRIT3 and asked to disrobe from the waist up. Physicians assistant comes in and says well your blood work shows no signs of ketoacidosis which is very serious but you do have a UTI. LMAO I'm sorry u know it's not funny but a 10 hour emergency room visit for a UTI? I have no insurance and I really should be crying but after the last couple of months I've had I guess this is a piece of cake. Ain't life grand? :)
I haven't been around much and I wanted to stop in and let you know that I am doing ok. We are really busy moving from our apt. to Glenn's family home. Also I have met a few family members on Facebook of my moms that I never knew and some I haven't heard from in years so I have been messaging them. I want my life to go back a few months but I know that isn't possible. Well I have to get ready to go to the doctors but I will return later today and catch up on my reading here at tBlog. :) Hugs, Zissy
I made it home last night and was so exhausted that I ate, showered and off to bed. My legs and feet are so swollen from the trip if they don't go down by tomorrow I'm thinking I should call my doctor.
I had to leave my mom yesterday sitting up in the bed having her breathing treatment in hospice. It broke my heart that I had to leave but we have to get packed up and moved by the end of the month and Glenn can't do it on his own. We are staying at the house because his father went to CA for a week to be with his family and we are here watching the house until he gets back.
My mom has always been my mother because she wasn't a comforting mom. I've never known her sober and neither have my siblings. To this day I don't know the demons she was trying to get away from and it's probably none of my business. All I know is that she wasn't strong enough to be the mom we needed but she did take care of our basic needs by working. Of course the person she is today sitting in her hospital bed isn't the person I've known for all of those years. The person I visited for the last week is someone you could love and that smile melts your heart. So much time wasted and that is something some of us will have to live with us and others will carry that with them to the other side.
My sister called me today because our mom has been sleeping all day and isn't with the program and that is scary to us because she has been up and at 'em. We were worried that they were giving her too much morphine but they aren't the doctor has also added a relaxer and that is causing her to be out of it and sleeping all day. We want her to be as alert as she possibly can without being in pain so hopefully they can get that all regulated. When we are there she doesn't complain that much about being in pain and we have had to encourage her to let us and the nurses know when she is in pain. My sister just called a few minutes ago and I said a few words to mom and she was a little more with it and up eating sherbert so that is good for my sister and her boys to visit with their grandma.
Most of my adult life I was a home health nurse but when it's close to home this is some tough stuff. I've made more decisions in one week than I have made in years and it's scary the questions they ask you. This is the life of someone else that you are now in control of and it's very scary. My baby sister unfortunately has the bulk of it because she lives there and is with our mom every day. I'm worried for her and wonder how long she can keep all of this up without breaking down. So I pray for her and ask those that know me to please keep her in your prayers because what she is doing isn't easy. To top that off our moms boyfriend is involved and since he has never been married and doesn't have any children he has asked my sister to help him as well. All I can do is be a sounding board for her and try and give her some advice but it's up to her to listen to it. She has to learn not to give all of herself but some have to learn that the hard way.
I'm happy to be home but I definitely wish I could be there for my sister. Please keep us all in your thoughts and prayers. Hugs, Zissy
My mom has been moved to hospice upstairs. All of my sisters crew is here right now visiting her but since she has been sleeping all day I'm not sure she will waking up. I thought it best to
Stay in the waiting room and not crowd them.
My moms cancer is stage 4 advanced mastitized to the bone all over. It will be weeks to months but she will not live a year.
She wants no heroic measures and wants to be cremated with no ceremony.
They will start morphine tonight to make her comfortable.
It honestly breaks my heart.
She went to see her GP this morning and he didn't like the way she looked and called the EMT's to pick her up and take her to the emergency room. He did tell her that she has lung cancer but that is all I know right now. My sister is with her and they are waiting to speak to someone so I will have more info later.
Today's show was all about Adele and her 21 album. Here are the links so that you can watch or listen to the video's at YouTube. This album is very raw and emotional about finding and losing Love. There aren't many albums these days that are good throughout but I haven't found a song on the album I don't like. Enjoy!
I'm crazy about Tiki, Lounge and SpaceAge Music. Tak Shindo happens to be at the top of my list and then of course Martin Denny, Les Baxter, Ray Conniff and so on. Please click on the picture and it will take you to my Tak Shindo music page and you can relax and listen to some great music.
...and well you know the rest. Glenn and I are trying to get back to our regular lives but there is something always pulling us off the track. Now Glenn is very sick and the poor guy feels like he's being punished for something. I for one don't believe in all of that. I do believe in karma and what goes around comes around but not with everything in life. Goodness stuff just happens and getting sick with a cold/flu is just that. He was shaking a lot of hands at the funeral and I'm sure he wasn't washing his hands as often as he usually would because it wasn't a priority that day.
Our lease is up by the end of March and we were going to sign for another year because we love it here but those plans have changed and are out of our control. We will deal with it and do what we have to do because that is what family does for one another. Well if it were my personal family no they wouldn't but Glenn's family is different and I like their way of thinking. :)
I received a call from my sister this evening and apparently our mom fell and so she drove over to make sure everything was ok. We are thinking the new pain medication that they started her on a week ago is causing dizziness so I told her to stop taking it and let the doctor know tomorrow. Her boyfriend and her are older and he can't be picking her up every time she falls so of course that worries all of us. Just as there weren't instructions on how to raise children there aren't instructions for caring for aging parents that have a mind of their own. I'm so happy that my sister lives near her and can get there if there is an emergency so that takes a weight off my mind but of course I still worry.
Now for my son this boy has lost his mind and the things that he has done in the last year have saddened, angered, scared and perplexed me. He woke up one morning and decided he didn't want to be married any longer and left his wife and at the time my 3 year old grandson. He's turned into someone that none of us know and that scares me. I don't know if he's doing drugs, has a tumor or is just plain crazy but I don't think he is being the best person that he can be and definitely not a good father to Brayden. The end of this month they are going to court and I'm fearful of what will happen. They are in South Carolina and I can't be there but my prayers are for all of them including my DIL's family as they have all been through all of this with her all year. I apologize for whatever my son has said and done to them but at this point he is a grown man and I know there is nothing that I can do but I do wonder where I went wrong. So please pray for all of them.
It's nice to be able to come here and vent but also I love reading your blogs and learning that none of our lives are easy but it's the way we handle them that is the key. Big or small we all have difficulties in life but we also have great times as well and it's nice to be able to share them. Hugs to all of you :)
It has been a very long two weeks full of all kinds of emotions. Remy was finally laid to rest on February 11th, 2012 and everything turned out beautifully. We arrived at Forest Lawn (Cypress) at around 8:30am to make sure everything was in order before the guests arrived. Gorgeous Flowers, Family and Friends arrived throughout the day and they all showed their love for Mrs. Remy Balan Catabas and it helped her family get through the day. There was a Rosary Ceremony for just the family in the viewing room that was very touching. At 1:30pm the viewing ended and then the Mass started at 2:30pm - 3:30pm and the chapel was full of friends and family. The priest was very attentive to the family and made all of us feel welcome even if we weren't Roman Catholic. He made us laugh, cry and think about life and love. Remy's daughter Jennifer, husband Eddie and Son Glenn gave their eulogy's and they were all very well done and delivered. Jennifer's was serious and heartfelt about the Life of her Mom, Eddie's was a tearful history about the love found when he met his sweetie and how he will miss her now that she is gone and Glenn's was full of anecdotes to make us laugh and remember Remy's lighter side of life. They all complemented one another and had the rest of us on a roller coaster ride full of emotions. Eddie's brother and family sang for us and we also sang hymns that Remy loved. After mass we all got in our vehicles and went to the grave site to lay Remy to rest. We had a few words from the priest with a prayer and Holy water and then a few songs were preformed by Eddie's brother including a favorite of Remy's, Crazy by Patsy Cline and we all sang along. After a very long day we were invited to a niece's house to enjoy some food, laughter and relaxation with family. We made it to our hotel room before 9pm and I don't remember my head hitting the pillow I was so exhausted. The next morning we checked out and headed to Seal Beach for some fresh salty air and I put my toes in the water and of course a wave got me soaked from the knees down. heheheheh Went to lunch with a friend and then got on the freeway to head home to Vegas. Now we will try and figure out how we will carry on without the glue that held this family together..........RIP Remy.
Glenn's mom Remy is now in heaven as of January 31st, 2012 at 9:52pm. She will be laid to rest at Forest Lawn in Cypress Saturday February 11th, 2012. Thank you all for your prayers.
We went to see Remy and it broke our hearts. Her eyes are open but there is nothing there. She makes the same movements with her head, eyes, arms and legs every few minutes. The only way Glenn and I can explain it is involuntary mechanical movement. We are asking for a neurologist to look at her as soon as they can. We are trying to be optimistic but reality is overtaking our thoughts right now.
I don't think there is a day that goes by that I don't hum, sing or think of this song. It encourages me to get through so many days and this last week it has helped me so much. Hugs, Zissy
He Lives
Lyrics ~ Alfred H. Ackley, 1887 - 1960
Music ~ Alfred H. Ackley, 1887 - 1960
Stanza 1:
I serve a risen Saviour; He's in the world today.
I know that He is living, whatever men may say.
I see His hand of mercy, I hear His voice of cheer,
And just the time I need Him He's always near.
Chorus:
He lives! He lives! Christ Jesus lives today!
He walks with me and talks with me along life's narrow way.
He lives! He lives! Salvation to impart!
You ask me how I know He lives? He lives within my heart.
Stanza 2:
In all the world around me I see His loving care,
And though my heart grows weary I never will despair.
I know that He is leading, thro' all the stormy blast;
The day of His appearing will come at last.
Chorus:
Stanza 3:
Rejoice, rejoice, O Christian! Lift up your voice and sing
Eternal hallelujahs to Jesus Christ, the King!
The Hope of all who seek Him, the Help of all who find,
None other is so loving, so good and kind.
My mom was being sent home on Friday and so I was talking to my sister via phone to make sure all of her questions were asked and answered before she left and then I received a call from Glenn asking me if I were dressed because he was stopping by to pick me up because his mom was in critical condition. Remy had triple bypass surgery about 6 months ago and three months after that they said that she had a leaky valve and that they needed to go back in a repair it. That of course isn't the problem now. Apparently she had a silent heart attack a few days ago and it damaged her heart so badly that it created a hole in the heart muscle. By the time she got to the hospital and prepped for surgery they had drained 1200 cc's of blood from her chest. She shouldn't have lived even to the hospital to be truthful. They took her in for emergency surgery that lasted 7 hours. The doctor repaired the heart the best he could but he said the hole was about the size of a quarter and that it's very hard to repair a muscle that is constantly m oving. He put a pump in her leg to help the heart so it doesn't have to work so hard. The doctor is also worried that this has affected her brain function but isn't sure because he never knew her before the surgery and has never seen her even awake. She has awakened for a few seconds but doesn't follow commands at this time. We feel for now that it is best for them to take care of her so we are staying home today. They can call us with any changes and we can call. There is nothing that we can do for her in the hospital but get in the way so we will spend this time praying as much as possible. As for my mom they sent her home on Friday the day after her biopsy. For some reason unknown to me they are making her wait up to 2 weeks for the results. It is possible that she has bone and lung cancer so them making her wait for the results is foreign to me. She has appointments with the cardiologist and lung specialist this next week. She is also on many medications for heart, pain and electrolytes&nbs p;and such. Not being there I'm not really sure all that is going on but I know my sister is doing her best and that is all any of us can ask for. So needless to say it's been a very rough week and in between all of this I got food poisoning on Thursday............bah. Thank all of you for your kind words and prayers and they are much appreciated.
Dear God in the Name of Jesus we are looking for a miracle for our Loved One Remy Catabas. She is in Critical Care ICU and they are monitoring her life expectancy hour by hour at this time. Please Dear Lord put her in your Loving Arms and keep her safe from pain and suffering. Keep her heart beating strong and heal her so that she can come back home to her family. We thank You for all that You do and we are praying for You to give us a Miracle today if it be Your will. Amen
Blessings to All that read this and please say a prayer for our Dear Loved One, Remy.